Money is deeply rooted in how we’ve evolved. It continues to produce powerful effects on our behaviour. We spend a great deal of time thinking about money. We talk about it, worry over it, stress over it, and wonder if we have enough to meet our immediate needs now and in the future. Most of us never seem to have enough, and we’re spending a good chunk of it earning money.
Failure can be valuable, but failure is not the goal, it is not something to strive for, it is not the point — it is merely a byproduct of trying new things, taking risks, and learning. And that brings us to an important point: failure is useful, but feeling like a failure is not.
The human mind is designed with a negativity bias — we pay more attention and give more weight to negative experiences than positive ones. There’s likely a perfectly good evolutionary reason for this: increased sensitivity to potentially negative stimuli is what kept our caveman ancestors...
If you’re putting in a few extra minutes (or hours) at the end of your workday, you’re setting yourself up for a night stressing over work. According to Sophie Leroy, simply finishing a task isn’t enough to clean up attention residue. Instead, “time pressure while finishing a prior task is needed to disengage.”
Kondo, whose TV show is based on her book The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up, has a simple system – throw out what you don’t want, hold on to what ‘sparks joy’ and give yourself time to focus on what’s more important in life. In an era when we are all busy washing out our jam jars amid consumerist guilt, Kondo is giving us the licence to throw things away.
According to Kimberly Leitch, a licensed clinical social worker at Talkspace, receiving feedback triggers a stress response from the incoming judgment, which is often coming from someone in a position of authority. So if this is a natural way our bodies respond to feedback or criticism, then we’re doomed, right? How do we overcome a natural gut reaction like this?
We all know that saving is important and something that we should be doing more of. Overall, though, most of us seem to be doing less and less of it. Is it just because we’re dumb when it comes to money or lack willpower? No — the amount we save largely depends on the environmental cues...
Reading is a skill that once you’ve learned, you probably don’t spend much time trying to get better at. (Not all that different from, say, breathing.) And yet, many of us don’t have to look far to see signs that there’s plenty of room for improvement. We only read at the end of the day—and only for the three minutes between cracking open a book and falling asleep.
Ambition is a concept that gets mixed reactions. Some people see it as the essence of progress, virtue and character. Those with ambition take action, set goals and build meaningful things. Without ambition, nothing would get done. In this sense, ambition is synonymous with vision, the opposite of laziness.
By looking to the outside for validation, people pleasers tend to put aside their own ambitions. Saying “yes” to a request when you’re already over-extended with things on your own plate means you’re valuing someone else’s needs and wants, and leaving your own unattended to.